Wednesday, February 17, 2010
Making decisions is an extraorfinary function in our daily life. We have to face decisions every single minutes & hour. We make "yes" and "no" decisions all the time in our life. Possibly thousand in a given day. Have you ever considered what an incredible ability this is? Have you ever considered what life's most important decision is?
Decision making always requires options. We all have the ability to make a choice and it's remarkable. You grow up in your hometown and does not decide who you parentns will be, what city you will be raised in, what language you will speak. But as you grew older, you world of options increases. If you make through high school education, you can choose to enter the working world or go to colleage to get a degree. So which one would that be? If you study hard in college, then you will ge a degree and makes enough money, and might decide to leave your country and explore overseas.
Many things are forced upon us initially. Who our parents are, where we are born, what gender and race we are. But as life goes on, we learn that we can and must make choices, ones that involve multiple options. When we are young, our parents helps us to understand that we much make decisions in life, and that there are consequences to life's decisions. And we are always responsible towards our decisions.
People make decisions with regard to the options available to them. If they have no options, they don't have a decision to make. But if they have more than one option, a choice must be made.
Some decisions are more important than others. For example, our marriage partner is much more important than whether we has egg or toast for breakfast. It's more important because who we will marry has greater, more lasting consequences.
The importance of a decision is tied down to "what's the consequences", "what persons or things that decision involves".
To me, the most important decision i will ever make is what I will do with God. If God is who most people think he is, then God is the most important person in existence. He is the Creator and Sustainer of the universe. He is the one being who has always existed and is here to stay, no matter what.
If you decide to have western breakfast instead of chinese breakfast, that's no big deal. If you buy a plaid shirt instead of a solid red one, what does it matter, really? Making a decision of who you are going to be married to -- even though that's quite important, in the long run how important is it compared to whether or not you choose to be wed to God?
And that is exactly the situation we find ourselves in. For God has allowed us to say "I do" or "I don't" to him. We can enter the divine matrimony or reject it altogether. We can say "yes" or "no" to the God of all creation. And not deciding is actually a decision.
Now, consider, this is quite amazing. Imagine that you were loved and adored by the most beautiful, intelligent, witty, loving, and courageous man or woman who ever lived. This perfect person loved you dearly, with a sacrificial love, and wanted to be wed to you for life, actually for an eternity of marital bliss. What would you say? "I'm sorry. You're not good enough for me."
Yet that is the position that many people take with God.
If we ever wanted a relationship with anyone, it should be with God. There is no one better to have a relationship with. He's perfectly good, wise, loving, just, fair, respectful, honest and caring. It's like the most greatest moment in our lives. And yet we say to him, "Thanks anyway but...no thanks." When we make such a statement, are we saying that God is not good enough for us? Don't you think that it's too ironic?
But why reject him in the first place? Maybe it's that he's too intimidating. We think, "Who wants to be married to someone who's perfect? They'd be noticing my faults all the time!" But God doesn't ask us to be perfect, but merely to come to him in our imperfection. He even says he will remove our imperfections in the next life, so that we will be more like him.
Okay, then what is it? Why reject someone as awesome as God? God only knows. For each person, the reason may be different.
Think about it. God is God and we are not. We need him but he doesn't need us. He can exist without us. He always has. But we can't exist without him. We never have. And he knows that he is the best thing for us. He knows he's the most beautiful, intelligent, honest, loving, and caring person who ever lived. He knows that if we really submitted ourselves to having a relationship with him, it would be in our best interest. In fact, there is nothing that could be better for us.
Therefore, by all rights, he shouldn't permit us to decide against him. But he does. He allows us to say the big "no thanks." Even though, in truth, who are we to reject him?
God is always there for us, standing there waiting for us to receive him. Is there such person in this world willing to do that? But God shows mercy and grace. He is compassionate. He is patient. He knocks on the door of our hearts and waits for an answer. He allows us to make the great decision. So what is the decision going to be?
Sunday, February 14, 2010
Came up during Friday on a limo with mom and dad, and heh it was a good experience cause i never been on a limo before. hahahahahah sounds so 'kampung' right. But that is the truth. It's the first time i had reunion dinner with hundreds of table in the convention hall with concert.. and there are a few more " first time experience"
It was not that bad actually despite of not able to meet the rest of the family and friends. But at least i manage to really relax myself with the cold breeze and a room to myself...
Friday, February 12, 2010
IN Forest Gum the movie: it was stated that Life is like a box of chocolate. It's always feel with different choices, varieties of experience. But thinking deeply, Life is always full of ups and downs...
Ever look at a seesaw? I was looking at some kids playing in a playground, on a seesaw, and both of them taking turns flying through the air. One went up, the other went down. One stayed up, the other stayed down. Well maybe i am getting old now, and it just doesn't seems like fun to me anymore. It does not served as a lesson in gravity to me, instead it served as a life lesson.
Have you really looked at a seesaw? It's actually one of the simplest piece of equipment on the playground, but one of the most complex to operate.Without the proper balance on each side, the thing is basically not funtionable and it's useless.
Life is just the same. The concept of a well - balance life is filled with ups and downs, is just a simple notion, but somehow some of us finds it hard to grasp. A lot of us let too many things upset our life. Instead of being happy and healthy and joyful and blessed, we tend to let the other downs upset our life.
Partners, Material items, friends, work. All these are good when it's being kept in their proper perspective. But when your partner stops loving right, your job stops paying right, and your friends stop acting right, does that leave you in a tailspin? Are you the type of person that is dependent on so many people and things to "make" you happy that your day, your week, your month is ruined when things that you can't control go differently than you had anticipated?
Every aspect of life is a series of ups and downs. You have rain and sun, day and night, work and play. You get a job and you may lose it. You fall in love and then back out of love. One day may be full with energy, another full of challenge just to get out of bed. That is just the dependability of life. It;s always full of ups and downs. But how you handle them is really up to individual. It's always easy to deal with the ups in life as they are enjoyable and inspiring at times. But when we faced with the downs, we just seems to be lost and there are no more direction and somehow we will be blaming the universe, the people, the job, the stress and everything that comes in mind.
But remember this, when you are experiencing a down time in your life, it does not mean that you are living a bad life. You are not a victim nor do you have a black cloud over your head. Always step back and take an overall view of your life. Learned from both perspectives, it is in experiencing a mix of ups and downs that we gain greater enjoyment from the ups in life. We gain the assurance that we can withstand whatever the downs in life may bring.
So just relax, lay back and try to look at things in a different way, and who knows, you might end up getting the ideas of having a better life.
Sunday, February 7, 2010
What is the 80:20 rule or principle?
Was talking to a friend about this and it makes me wonder. If everyone follows the 80: 20 rules in this world, then they will not be any seperations, adultery and unhappiness in lifes. But does everyone really applies this in their life? Does it really work? I think it's still a question mark to a lot of people... What is the 80: 20 principle? Most people only get about 80% of what they need in a relationship, and the 20% should not be that big of a deal. The problem is there are a lot of people who only focus on what they are not getting. Which caused to they sometimes give up on the 80% as the remainding 20% looks great because they are not getting it and think that they must have it all.... But unfortunately, the truth is, no relationship is perfect as we all have flaws and will fall short in life. NO ONE IS PERFECT!!!!!
If we are perfect, we will not be in this world... In many areas, we need to know what is the other parties NEEDS and DESIRES are and not just sexually. Your unspoken expectations are a relationship killer!!!!! COMMUNICATION PEOPLE!!! COMMUNICATION!!!!Accept the 80% and work on the 20% and enjoy what you have and don't think otherwise. Treasure your God-filled marriage and relationship with each other. As humans, none of us are perfect!!!! :P Be careful with your decision between what you WANT and NEED in your life. Somewhere along the way, you will find a woman or a man who will be more charming and sensetive, More alluring, more thoughtful, more attractive and able to fulfill the other 20% of what you need. But please bare in mind, that is only the 20 %... are you going to let go of the 80% then?But how long will this be? There are always someone better compare of what you have now... but are you going to keep on searching until the end of your life? Just be happy with what you have.... Treasure and try to work out the relationship. No one says that relationship is an easy thing... it takes a lot of effort, communication, love, trust and time... If you can find someone with the 80%.... treasure it!!!!. Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have.
Past is just the past and don't worry about it again!!!
A thought or memory will sometimes pops into your head that you cannot get rid of it. You look through some old pictures and see some familiar faces and you will start thinking about past and what ifs. You hear a song that reminds you of the good times and your past started to haunt you. There are times when you are sitting quietly and reading, and then a familiar voice appears behind you. It's painful that you can't eat or even breathe, you just have to leave. What will you do... you will walk away but the feelings just stays with you. You feel that your past is just watching your every move, and you are too scare to look... It makes you paranoid, it makes you afraid to move forward. Which is silly!!!!! You know your past isn't waiting for you. YOU NEED TO MOVE ON!!!! Why do you want to look back then. So that you can try and get mad at yourself? So that you can start crying over it again?
But, at circumstances, you know that what you are mad at is just so far behind you that the energy you are exerting is futile. You know that you don't have anything to be afraid of. But then you will start questioning yourself what if? What if the past repeats itself? What if i don't have the determination to move forward? What if you are just waiting for it to happen all over again? Do you know when to stop before the damage? Do you know when to draw the line? Would it be too late? But the question is... if you don't move on... could you live with all the pain again and leave all the beautiful things in front of you fading away? PAST IS JUST A PAST! Never look back. Learn from your mistakes and never look back. Cause always remember that those are just histories.
Great things are waiting for you in future. Don't let your past keep you from moving ahead to reach the golden moments of your life. Appreciate with what you have now. Cause if you keep looking back, nothing is going to happen. You are not able to move on at all. Is it worth it? There might be better things waiting for you, but just because you don't dare to move forward and keep asking the question... you might just lose the chance, you are not able to get to the better life.Whatever happened before, you are not able to count the scores anymore. Do not ask " WHAT IF" anymore. Just proceed with your life. Live it fully and have fun and start a new life. Don't ever think about the past, because what happened is already happened and it will not last. Your life is waiting for you, you have a lots of things to do. There is still a long way to go to finish your life, and you have many good things waiting for you to start. You can't let your past rip your present apart. So, erase everything from your mind. Your present is your life,,,, it's your life,,, It's your future to look forward to. Why do you want it to be dark. LIGHT IT UP!!! Why don't you be free... FREE YOURSELF!!! Free yourself from your past, cause it's just not going to last because life goes on too fast and you just can't stop now...