Dorea Bonga: Korean restaurant

I have never felt so discrimated in my life before. It was the worst night with poor service from the restaurant and to me it's like " what kind of services is it.
Went to this Korean restaurant in Hartamas with my friend: Bonga and thought heh why not we pamper ourselves tonight with some good and happy food.
Went there waited for 15 minutes to have a place. ordered and waited. At first it was fine... food quality basically drop.... don't even mentioned about the service. It was the worst....
Took us half and hour just to ask for a refill on drinks and on the kimchis. The waiters just basically look at you and it's like as if we were transparent or either than that they are DEAF!!!!!

I am not going to bitch about the watermelon after that. To me it's just watermelon.... i can afford to buy from the shops... But it's just really discrimating as when they pass you back the change.. it was being hand to you just like that and they left.

Me and my friends complained to the management and we were also being ignored... Why? Is it becuase we were not Japs or Koreans? If you want to do business in malaysia, i believe that you should have some courtesy and should improve on your service.

Charice - Note To God Lyrics

I didn't know who Charice was when i heard this song yesterday in Oprah show. But this is one of the song which actually makes me cry from inside. I went to search about who this talented girl was and gosh!!!! what a surprise and little that i know about her.

ON first glance, Charice Penpengco looks like another teenager filled with energy and a wide and engaging smile. But when this 17 years old opens her mouth to sing- with a profound, rich and soaring 10 decibel voice, you will literally gasps. Well at least that was my first reaction when i saw and heard her on tv.

Charice is born and raised in the PHilippines and she is no newcomer to the stage. At age 7, CHarice was competing in local contest and singing songs by Whiteney Houston, Mariah Carey and Celine Dion. Heh... even i can't do that ok. She was first notice in You tube with a 13 million hits and the audience is still growing on her show.

Check her up in You tube and you will amaze.

Note to god is one of the song that i really love and i really felt my tears flowing down

Charice - Note To God Lyrics:
"If I wrote a note to God
I would speak what's in my soul
I'd ask for all the hate to be swept away
For love to overflow

If I wrote a note to God
I'd pour my heart out on each page
I'd ask for war to end
and for peace to mend this world

I'd say
I'd say
I'd say

Give us the strength to make it through
Help us find love, cause love is overdue
And it seems like so much is going wrong
On this road we're on

If I wrote a note to God
I'd say please help us find a way
End all the bitterness, put some tenderness
in our hearts

I'd say
I'd say
I'd say

Give us the strength to make it through
Help us find love, cause love is overdue
And it looks like we haven't got a clue
Need some help from you

Grant us the faith to carry on
Give us hope when it seems all hope is gone
Cause it seems like so much is going wrong
On this road we're on

No
No

We can't do it on our own

So
So

(Give us the strength to make it through
Help us find love, cause love is overdue)
And it looks like we haven't got a clue
Need some help

Grant us the faith to carry on
Give us hope when it seems all hope is gone
Cause it seems like so much is going wrong
On this road we're on

No
No
(No) We can't do it on our own

(So)
So

If I wrote a note to God

Making decisions in life

What's the biggest decision you will ever make in your life? Yes.. Decision.

Making decisions is an extraorfinary function in our daily life. We have to face decisions every single minutes & hour. We make "yes" and "no" decisions all the time in our life. Possibly thousand in a given day. Have you ever considered what an incredible ability this is? Have you ever considered what life's most important decision is?

Decision making always requires options. We all have the ability to make a choice and it's remarkable. You grow up in your hometown and does not decide who you parentns will be, what city you will be raised in, what language you will speak. But as you grew older, you world of options increases. If you make through high school education, you can choose to enter the working world or go to colleage to get a degree. So which one would that be? If you study hard in college, then you will ge a degree and makes enough money, and might decide to leave your country and explore overseas.

Many things are forced upon us initially. Who our parents are, where we are born, what gender and race we are. But as life goes on, we learn that we can and must make choices, ones that involve multiple options. When we are young, our parents helps us to understand that we much make decisions in life, and that there are consequences to life's decisions. And we are always responsible towards our decisions.

People make decisions with regard to the options available to them. If they have no options, they don't have a decision to make. But if they have more than one option, a choice must be made.
Some decisions are more important than others. For example, our marriage partner is much more important than whether we has egg or toast for breakfast. It's more important because who we will marry has greater, more lasting consequences.

The importance of a decision is tied down to "what's the consequences", "what persons or things that decision involves".

To me, the most important decision i will ever make is what I will do with God. If God is who most people think he is, then God is the most important person in existence. He is the Creator and Sustainer of the universe. He is the one being who has always existed and is here to stay, no matter what.

If you decide to have western breakfast instead of chinese breakfast, that's no big deal. If you buy a plaid shirt instead of a solid red one, what does it matter, really? Making a decision of who you are going to be married to -- even though that's quite important, in the long run how important is it compared to whether or not you choose to be wed to God?

And that is exactly the situation we find ourselves in. For God has allowed us to say "I do" or "I don't" to him. We can enter the divine matrimony or reject it altogether. We can say "yes" or "no" to the God of all creation. And not deciding is actually a decision.

Now, consider, this is quite amazing. Imagine that you were loved and adored by the most beautiful, intelligent, witty, loving, and courageous man or woman who ever lived. This perfect person loved you dearly, with a sacrificial love, and wanted to be wed to you for life, actually for an eternity of marital bliss. What would you say? "I'm sorry. You're not good enough for me."

Yet that is the position that many people take with God.

If we ever wanted a relationship with anyone, it should be with God. There is no one better to have a relationship with. He's perfectly good, wise, loving, just, fair, respectful, honest and caring. It's like the most greatest moment in our lives. And yet we say to him, "Thanks anyway but...no thanks." When we make such a statement, are we saying that God is not good enough for us? Don't you think that it's too ironic?

But why reject him in the first place? Maybe it's that he's too intimidating. We think, "Who wants to be married to someone who's perfect? They'd be noticing my faults all the time!" But God doesn't ask us to be perfect, but merely to come to him in our imperfection. He even says he will remove our imperfections in the next life, so that we will be more like him.
Okay, then what is it? Why reject someone as awesome as God? God only knows. For each person, the reason may be different.

Think about it. God is God and we are not. We need him but he doesn't need us. He can exist without us. He always has. But we can't exist without him. We never have. And he knows that he is the best thing for us. He knows he's the most beautiful, intelligent, honest, loving, and caring person who ever lived. He knows that if we really submitted ourselves to having a relationship with him, it would be in our best interest. In fact, there is nothing that could be better for us.

Therefore, by all rights, he shouldn't permit us to decide against him. But he does. He allows us to say the big "no thanks." Even though, in truth, who are we to reject him?

God is always there for us, standing there waiting for us to receive him. Is there such person in this world willing to do that? But God shows mercy and grace. He is compassionate. He is patient. He knocks on the door of our hearts and waits for an answer. He allows us to make the great decision. So what is the decision going to be?

A new NEW year experience

I have been spending most of my life celebrating Chinese New Year in hometown with family and friends. But this year is totally different. Last minute the whole family decided to spend the new year in Genting instead. At first, i was thinking that it was not a bad idea at all.. up on the hill with cooling breeze and just relax and spend some quality time with the family. At first i was complaining about not able to get the ang pows but heh... i think it turn out to be quite good, despite of putting on a few pounds with the good food and relaxing.

Came up during Friday on a limo with mom and dad, and heh it was a good experience cause i never been on a limo before. hahahahahah sounds so 'kampung' right. But that is the truth. It's the first time i had reunion dinner with hundreds of table in the convention hall with concert.. and there are a few more " first time experience"

It was not that bad actually despite of not able to meet the rest of the family and friends. But at least i manage to really relax myself with the cold breeze and a room to myself...

LIfe like a seesaw

IN Forest Gum the movie: it was stated that Life is like a box of chocolate. It's always feel with different choices, varieties of experience. But thinking deeply, Life is always full of ups and downs...

Ever look at a seesaw? I was looking at some kids playing in a playground, on a seesaw, and both of them taking turns flying through the air. One went up, the other went down. One stayed up, the other stayed down. Well maybe i am getting old now, and it just doesn't seems like fun to me anymore. It does not served as a lesson in gravity to me, instead it served as a life lesson.

Have you really looked at a seesaw? It's actually one of the simplest piece of equipment on the playground, but one of the most complex to operate.Without the proper balance on each side, the thing is basically not funtionable and it's useless.

Life is just the same. The concept of a well - balance life is filled with ups and downs, is just a simple notion, but somehow some of us finds it hard to grasp. A lot of us let too many things upset our life. Instead of being happy and healthy and joyful and blessed, we tend to let the other downs upset our life.

Partners, Material items, friends, work. All these are good when it's being kept in their proper perspective. But when your partner stops loving right, your job stops paying right, and your friends stop acting right, does that leave you in a tailspin? Are you the type of person that is dependent on so many people and things to "make" you happy that your day, your week, your month is ruined when things that you can't control go differently than you had anticipated?

Every aspect of life is a series of ups and downs. You have rain and sun, day and night, work and play. You get a job and you may lose it. You fall in love and then back out of love. One day may be full with energy, another full of challenge just to get out of bed. That is just the dependability of life. It;s always full of ups and downs. But how you handle them is really up to individual. It's always easy to deal with the ups in life as they are enjoyable and inspiring at times. But when we faced with the downs, we just seems to be lost and there are no more direction and somehow we will be blaming the universe, the people, the job, the stress and everything that comes in mind.

But remember this, when you are experiencing a down time in your life, it does not mean that you are living a bad life. You are not a victim nor do you have a black cloud over your head. Always step back and take an overall view of your life. Learned from both perspectives, it is in experiencing a mix of ups and downs that we gain greater enjoyment from the ups in life. We gain the assurance that we can withstand whatever the downs in life may bring.

So just relax, lay back and try to look at things in a different way, and who knows, you might end up getting the ideas of having a better life.

Shoes!Shoes!Shoes!

Finally!!!! i was so excited when i got this pair of shoes on Saturday!!!!! It's so colourful and only by looking at it, i can feel my day is going to fill with happiness and joy!!!! Thank you

to my dear friend. I feel so excited!! Don't ask me how much is it, but it's definately worth the price. Don't you think so? Isn't it adorable?

Wore it to work today and immediately everyone noticed about it and i was so proud to say that you can never get this outside in any shops cause it's a custom made . Sometimes i know that ppl will start complaining and asking me why shoes? and not bags or clothes.. Well, i seriously do not know. I just have this fetish towards shoes, everytime i pass by any shops, i just can't pull myself out and have to browse through. Shoes!!! It's like a new life and it will bored if you don't have anything new to wear. It's just a girl's thing. Every outfil will have to go with different designs and colours.....

The 80: 20 rules in relationship

What is the 80:20 rule or principle?

Was talking to a friend about this and it makes me wonder. If everyone follows the 80: 20 rules in this world, then they will not be any seperations, adultery and unhappiness in lifes. But does everyone really applies this in their life? Does it really work? I think it's still a question mark to a lot of people... What is the 80: 20 principle? Most people only get about 80% of what they need in a relationship, and the 20% should not be that big of a deal. The problem is there are a lot of people who only focus on what they are not getting. Which caused to they sometimes give up on the 80% as the remainding 20% looks great because they are not getting it and think that they must have it all.... But unfortunately, the truth is, no relationship is perfect as we all have flaws and will fall short in life. NO ONE IS PERFECT!!!!!

If we are perfect, we will not be in this world... In many areas, we need to know what is the other parties NEEDS and DESIRES are and not just sexually. Your unspoken expectations are a relationship killer!!!!! COMMUNICATION PEOPLE!!! COMMUNICATION!!!!Accept the 80% and work on the 20% and enjoy what you have and don't think otherwise. Treasure your God-filled marriage and relationship with each other. As humans, none of us are perfect!!!! :P Be careful with your decision between what you WANT and NEED in your life. Somewhere along the way, you will find a woman or a man who will be more charming and sensetive, More alluring, more thoughtful, more attractive and able to fulfill the other 20% of what you need. But please bare in mind, that is only the 20 %... are you going to let go of the 80% then?But how long will this be? There are always someone better compare of what you have now... but are you going to keep on searching until the end of your life? Just be happy with what you have.... Treasure and try to work out the relationship. No one says that relationship is an easy thing... it takes a lot of effort, communication, love, trust and time... If you can find someone with the 80%.... treasure it!!!!. Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have.

Past is just the past and don't worry about it again!!!

A thought or memory will sometimes pops into your head that you cannot get rid of it. You look through some old pictures and see some familiar faces and you will start thinking about past and what ifs. You hear a song that reminds you of the good times and your past started to haunt you. There are times when you are sitting quietly and reading, and then a familiar voice appears behind you. It's painful that you can't eat or even breathe, you just have to leave. What will you do... you will walk away but the feelings just stays with you. You feel that your past is just watching your every move, and you are too scare to look... It makes you paranoid, it makes you afraid to move forward. Which is silly!!!!! You know your past isn't waiting for you. YOU NEED TO MOVE ON!!!! Why do you want to look back then. So that you can try and get mad at yourself? So that you can start crying over it again?

But, at circumstances, you know that what you are mad at is just so far behind you that the energy you are exerting is futile. You know that you don't have anything to be afraid of. But then you will start questioning yourself what if? What if the past repeats itself? What if i don't have the determination to move forward? What if you are just waiting for it to happen all over again? Do you know when to stop before the damage? Do you know when to draw the line? Would it be too late? But the question is... if you don't move on... could you live with all the pain again and leave all the beautiful things in front of you fading away? PAST IS JUST A PAST! Never look back. Learn from your mistakes and never look back. Cause always remember that those are just histories.

Great things are waiting for you in future. Don't let your past keep you from moving ahead to reach the golden moments of your life. Appreciate with what you have now. Cause if you keep looking back, nothing is going to happen. You are not able to move on at all. Is it worth it? There might be better things waiting for you, but just because you don't dare to move forward and keep asking the question... you might just lose the chance, you are not able to get to the better life.

Whatever happened before, you are not able to count the scores anymore. Do not ask " WHAT IF" anymore. Just proceed with your life. Live it fully and have fun and start a new life. Don't ever think about the past, because what happened is already happened and it will not last. Your life is waiting for you, you have a lots of things to do. There is still a long way to go to finish your life, and you have many good things waiting for you to start. You can't let your past rip your present apart. So, erase everything from your mind. Your present is your life,,,, it's your life,,, It's your future to look forward to. Why do you want it to be dark. LIGHT IT UP!!! Why don't you be free... FREE YOURSELF!!! Free yourself from your past, cause it's just not going to last because life goes on too fast and you just can't stop now...

Expectations

Everytime when we are in a relationship, we tend to have expectation towards each other. What if this expectation is not being fulfilled? We feel sad? Dissapointed? It's a failure? Unfulfilled expectations are always the cause of problems. Having expectations is a norm in our lifes and it's expected. We are brought up that way. Having great expectations sounds great however when the expectation is not being fulfilled, we bitch about it, we moan, and of course we become dissapointed. This is always a problem among most of the people. For example, if you expect your partner to love you in a certain way and their love does not show up the way you want it to be, you will most likely be dissapointed. Our need to be loved in a certain way is not a healthy need, it is only and always an unrealistic expectation. Another disappointing thing about expectations is that they often do not come true. One love partner knows the expectation. The other love partner doesn't know the expectation of the other. Expectations are in the eye of the beholder. Can you see the problem? Needs must be communicated. Expectations are rarely ever communicated. You must give careful thought to what needs must be fulfilled for you to know you have a healthy love relationship. "Expect the best," is certainly a better attitude than the alternative. Some say, "If you always expect the best for your relationship, everything will work out better." This is a myth. It will work out the way it works out and you will be disappointed because it didn't work out the way you expected it to. You don't always get what you expect. We often expect our love partner to make the best choices for themselves and our relationship and when they are not our choices, we often get angry or disappointed. . . or both. Most people call this situation a problem: a problem we create by our expectations. Try this: "No expectations, fewer disappointments!" It's that simple. This is not easy but it's Simple. Some people will say that ::" it's easier to be say than done". Yes this is true.... it's not easy... but it's just a very simple philosophy. Try it. By considering a new point of view, by changing our thinking about expectations, we open ourselves up to whatever good the 'us' of the committed you and me may be working on together at the time. Since we are detached from the way things need to work out, we may be surprised by the result. Even when we imagine the very best, we are often surprised, because if there were shades of doubt present in our imaginings, things may turn out better than we imagined. . . or worse. Once we learn to identify our own individual, healthy needs, we must also learn not to be attached to the expectation of how those needs get fulfilled. This will always generate lots of surprises. That is when the adventure begins; the adventure the heart was crying for. Surprises create a sense of adventure; surprises you can enjoy together; surprises that create new and exciting possibilities for the two of you to experience. Some of the surprises may show up as challenges for the relationship. They bring couples together and give them something to share. When two people really love each other and are committed to work together, those kind of surprises create the kind of conversation that empowers both love partners to continue to self-inquire, to investigate their curiosities about what they can do to stand together, to be challenged by the surprise and know that everything is going to be okay. Problems are not to break us. Working together on problems makes us strong. While there is something to be said about "expecting the best," we must remember that disappointment comes from unfulfilled expectations. This does not mean that when your expectations do not get met, that the results are always bad. It only means that if your expectations don't get met. Disappointment usually follows. By thinking in terms of needs instead of expectations, we create vulnerability. Having needs with no expectations about how they will be fulfilled causes us to feel vulnerable. We have more to lose because now we know what we want. The outcome is less predictable. There is some risk involved. And we have a responsibility for getting our needs met. Never give yourself away in the relationship. By "give yourself away," I mean making sacrifices that conflict with what you need from the relationship. Never sacrifice your own personal integrity with regard to getting your needs met. The healthier image you have of yourself, the less likely this will occur. There is a difference between duty and responsibility. When duty does not meet our needs, it is something to be avoided. For example, if there are children in the relationship you have a responsibility to take care of them. When it feels like duty, you have a responsibility to take care of your need to not have it feel like duty. We all experience the need to have healthy choices exercised and when they don't show up in our relationship, we either choose to have conversations about them or not. If the choices are abusive and therefore unacceptable, we begin to think about making a responsible choice to leave the relationship. However, always picking our lover apart because their choices are not the ones we would make can only point the relationship in the wrong direction. If we could accept the notion that everyone is doing the best they can, regardless of whether their choices are our choices, our attitude about our relationship would improve and perhaps the relationship we have would become the relationship we enjoy being in. We must learn to distinguish between expectations and needs. Everyone has a need to be loved, to be understood, to be accepted and to be forgiven when necessary. For us to have expectations about how those needs get fulfilled can only cause disappointment. The number one problem in relationships is undelivered communication. It's the things we don't communicate because the last time we did, it caused a confrontation, argument, anger, frustration and we want to avoid these feelings so we stuff them. The next thing you know is, your partner didn't take out the garbage and you want a divorce and it's not about the garbage. So, how do you sidestep the disappointment that always comes from unfulfilled expectations? Who wins the "expectations versus needs" dilemma? Needs, of course! You focus on your needs and make a commitment to never have any undelivered communication about them. Talk about what you need with your partner. Express your needs with love. We often call things that happen that cause disappointment, problems. To avoid disappointment or problems. . . as best you can, have no expectations, good or bad. When you have expectations there are never any surprises because the outcome is almost always predictable. Disappointment follows unfulfilled expectations. The predicaments that follow are predictable. If your relationship is not full of surprises, it is most likely very boring and may border on being unhealthy. Having healthy needs is a natural and creative attitude to embrace. It is important to allow your love partner the freedom to fulfill your needs in their own best way. When you know what you need from your relationship and can express those needs to your partner and be okay with allowing them to love you the way they can love you, you will see a shift in your relationship that goes far beyond what you ever could have imagined!